Understandably, she may feel fearful of firing an obstetrician and having to speak up to make her desires known. Family members may be unsupportive of her desires and consequentially plant seeds of fear and doubt in her mind. She avoids making others feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, or angry and fears the judge from others and within herself.
Birth, parenting and following intuition take courage. It takes courage to speak up, change plans and do what she knows to be true. Making decisions in love instead of fear brings true peace that is felt within the body.
The following is an interview with a woman who did just that – recognized and acknowledged the red flags during her prenatal care, did soul searching to discover her true desires and spoke her wishes into being. Her name is Celeste Bracey and this is her story.
Hey Celeste! Tell us a little about yourself.
How was the care with your obstetrician/midwife a problem for you?
What were your husband’s thoughts about transferring?
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I think there were many factors at play here. We had a wonderful doula, Phyliss Fisher, and her back up doula, Karen Matteson, they were both so supportive and gave me the confidence to find my own voice. I also know that the BFW class that we took played a huge role. The birth art that I did in class and at home helped me face my fear of a c-section and also helped me learn to visualize our beautiful birth happening exactly how we wanted it. It is funny a few days before I went into labor, I painted a picture of me and my husband and our brand new baby in bed at The Birth Cottage. I wrote the words from the book BFW- labor is hard work, it hurts and you can do it- on the painting. When we came home with our new baby, I found this and we were all in the picture just how we had been hours before in the bed at The Birth Cottage snuggled up together. My husband framed it and placed it on my bedside table.
Thanks, Celeste! You were and still are an inspiration!
|Celeste (left) in action as a doula|